10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living, Guidepost 7

Guidepost Seven

Wholehearted living is about engaging with our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.’ It’s going to bed at night thinking, ‘Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.

Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

This is the 7th in a series as we explore the 10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living as found in the research of Brené Brown. 

These are intentionally designed as simple, direct, two-minute reads that I hope bring you insight, value, and immediately practical application.  Given the current state of the world and the unease that you may be experiencing as a result, I hope you find this timely. And at a minimum, I hope you find them food for thought.



Letting go of comparison.

Easier said than done. Especially as we are struggling more with the everyday-COVID, fires, virtual education, disconnection. It is tempting to observe others. Not comparing ourselves is one of the most self compassionate acts we can make. Letting go of expectations to be like others, or to compete with them gives us freedom to be ourselves…just you, just me. We are so much more likely to succeed and experience joy by being ourselves than by being in the rabbit hole in pursuit of being someone we are not.  The later is an endless, uphill battle. Trying to fill the shoes of another is simply setting ourselves up for failure or disappointment. However, it is impossible to fail at being ourselves.

Make time for creativity.

When we are can lean into our true selves, it becomes possible to also lean into authentic creativity. Our lives consist of work (mostly from home), supporting our kids who are mostly doing school virtually, cooking dinner, cleaning the house, doing yard work, all the while trying to figure out how to take care of ourselves. And yet, the first thing we move down on the priority list when crunched for time is creativity. Creativity is important. When creativity is made a priority it sparks innovation. 

Here is a nudge if you do not feel naturally creative:

    1.   Take a baby step and simply sit and listen to music that is new, unexpected, different than your normal.
    2.   Pick up a pencil and doodle for a few minutes while you are listening. 
    3.   Let your mind wander. You are giving both your right and left side of the brain permission to engage. 

Creativity gives space for Self Discovery – becoming aware of feelings that have been lurking in your self conscious. It can give space for the feeling of accomplishment. Creativity can be an emotional release- a healthy outlet for expressing and letting go of feelings and fears when words can’t be found.  And finally, creativity can help you relax your mind and body. 

As I reflect on past Guideposts I draw from the courage and resilience of the last several months. I encourage you to consider your own courage and resilience which at times are an accomplishment in and of themselves.  

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