Wholehearted living is about engaging with our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.’ It’s going to bed at night thinking, ‘Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.
Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
This photo was taken across the street from my home. I live in the vibrant neighborhood that was destroyed after the death of George Floyd. If you look closely, you see not only rubble and ash, but beauty and hope for something good, something better.
It has been a complicated few months for me, a white woman who is a contributor to the systemic racism in our world. The same racism that ignited the spark that demolished our community. Added to the complication is the uncertainty and lack of connection that we are all experiencing as we live in a pandemic, which has become not only a health crisis, but a politicized health crisis.
As I look back over the past 5 Guideposts I see a path that I can take that can offer me the courage to be imperfect, vulnerability to live in uncertainty, a resilient spirit that guides me to hope and joy rather than fear and anxiety. Won’t you join me?
This Month’s Guidepost is Designated as a Reflection on the 5 Previous Guideposts.
courage to be imperfect: Wow! This is a hard one for most of us. I have so much unlearning to do in the the arena of becoming anti-racist. I bring my beliefs, experiences, and feelings to this anti-racism work – a work that is difficult and emotionally demanding. The best gift we can give to ourselves is permission to get it wrong, and a commitment to trying again. The best gift we can give to others is a willingness to listen and to seek to understand another’s perspective.
allow ourselves to be curious and vulnerable: Perspective gaining is not an argument. There are no winners and losers. It is truly seeking to understand another, what they value and beliefs that ground their choices. Practicing holding space to unlearn, learn, practice true empathy and seek to understand other’s lived experiences is practicing vulnerability- the feeling we get when there is risk, uncertainty or emotional exposure.
a resilient spirit: Resiliency is the ability to get back up when either things go wrong, we encounter disappointment, or we’re in the middle of adversity. Resiliency feels like hope. I look around and see ash, destruction, boarded buildings, struggle. Without resiliency, it could feel dark and hopeless. But in this diverse vibrant whole hearted neighborhood, we look beyond the remnant of unheard voices in peaceful protest, turned riots and FEEL hope. Discover connection, see each other with fresh eyes, connect with each other. Let’s all move forward with each other. Let’s not go back to the way we were. Together we are stronger, fuller and braver than ever before. That is resilience!
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